Simple Skills for Handling Negative Emotions So You Don't Ruin The Day

Handling Negative Emotions For Your Best Day

Learning how to develop simple skills for handling negative emotions so you don’t ruin the day are so important for good health and vitality. Yet most people don’t ever learn these skills anywhere when growing up.  We don’t always do the right thing. We eat too much. We stay out too late. We make mistakes, break promises, and live a life that isn’t always in keeping with our values or our goals. We wrote an article How Your Core Values Guide You To Live Your Best Life that you might find helpful here https://www.wendybottrell.com/blog/how-your-core-values-guide-you-to-live-your-best-life 

All of this leads to negative emotions: guilt, shame, even anger come creeping in to derail your attempts to get back on track. How can you handle these kinds of negative emotions without letting it ruin your day?

We start by looking at three ways you have used to handle it and then move on to one technique you should be using all the time.

Avoiding the Emotion
Don’t we love pretending we can make the emotions go away? We bury them, suppress them, explain them away, sometimes even turning to things like drugs or alcohol just to make them stop. 

The problem? Anytime you’re avoiding something because of negative emotions, you’re letting the emotion control you. The better solution? Give yourself room to understand it, and deal with the underlying cause. 

Allow yourself to sit with the emotion. Don’t resist it. You’ve heard the saying - “What you resist, will persist. Because when you resist, you are directing negative energy towards what you are resisting and when doing so, you make it harder for the problem to get resolved.

Pay attention to your body, when you are struggling with something, you are not letting things flow. You are blocking the flow of energy coming to you and out of you.

Resistance is created by our limiting beliefs or fears. By our opinion of how something or someone should be. Learn to let go of the fears and limiting beliefs and trust, have faith that the universe is always working towards what’s best for you.
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Pretending the Emotion is Not There
This coping mechanism is a little different. You fall into it by denying you ever felt the negative emotion in the first place. Here the problem is, the more you deny an emotion, the more it grows until it can’t be ignored any longer. 

Your solution, this time, is simple. Acknowledge the emotion. Accept it for what it is and let it fade on its own.

Becoming the Emotion
Sometimes the negative emotion is so powerful it becomes part of who you are. At some point, you might even start taking a certain amount of pride in it. You start saying, “Well, I’m just a mad person” or even bragging about how worse off you are than anyone else. Now you’ve become the emotion. 

The solution? Let the feelings process. Journal, talk to a friend, whatever you must to do, do it, to let the emotion move on. Pro tip? Start encouraging positive emotions, allowing them to come in and replace the negative.

Learn
Learning the lessons of your emotions is perhaps the strongest technique of all. When you realize negative emotions are useful in your life and are there to teach you about yourself, doors start opening. 

You begin to see different possibilities. Feelings as educational tools have no power to control you at all, but conversely, have the power to change you in very positive ways. Like when you’re feeling angry about injustice, and you use this anger to create positive change in the world.

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